Dr. Kathy Obear

Less Conflict at Work: Is it Really Possible?

– Posted in: workplace dynamics

I’ve been hearing from so many people about the difficult situations they’re encountering at work – tangled conflicts, mismanaged situations, ego-driven politics, and escalating tensions – to name just a few. And the results of workplace conflict are catastrophic to any business! In the 30 years I’ve been doing training and organizational change work, my [...]

Triggered? Take control and choose how you respond – don’t just react

– Posted in: Navigating triggers

Triggering events occur when we react unexpectedly and/or intensely to an internal or external circumstance or “trigger.” This happens to us all. The “trigger” itself can be just about anything – a colleague says something offensive; a participant in a meeting makes snarky comments; you read an inflammatory post on social media; a family member [...]

You’re not racist…or are you?

– Posted in: Creating change

When I was growing up, “racist” to me meant the KKK, white supremacy, white nationalists – those types of terms. So, I came to believe that I was a “good” white since I wasn’t one of those people. After all, “racist” meant you were a horrible person, evil. How many of you reading this can [...]

Increase Your Effectiveness: Pointers to Help You Navigate Challenging Situations

– Posted in: Life Lessons, Navigating triggers

In a recent post, I talked briefly about what to do when you encounter a challenging situation. Now, I’m going deeper into this topic with pointers to help you respond more effectively.   -a wave of emotion come over you that you weren’t expecting? -knocked off your game? -like your buttons are being pushed? -angry, [...]

What To Do When Your Buttons Get Pushed: Tools To Help You Respond In Difficult Situations

– Posted in: Life Lessons, Navigating triggers

Tell me if this sounds familiar. You’re at work when someone says something that rubs you the wrong way. It takes you off guard. Now you’re hooked…and before you realize it, you’ve said something you know you’re going to regret later on. Who hasn’t encountered a situation like this? I know I have, many times. [...]

Dismantling Racism: Tools for Student Affairs Educators on Higher Ed Live

– Posted in: Creating change, Social Justice
Dismantling Racism: Tools for Student Affairs Educators

If you're not familiar with Higher Ed Live, let me have the pleasure of introducing you... Description from their website: The Higher Ed Live network offers viewers direct access to the best and brightest minds in education and allows viewers to share knowledge and participate in discussions around the most important issues in the industry. Higher [...]

ANNOUNCING: The Center for Transformation and Change

– Posted in: Creating change, Diversity training
Calling all chagne agents | social change | Organizational change | social justice

It was a great day! Recently, one of the people in my year-long Certification Program observed me facilitating a day-long workshop on creating inclusive organizations. I believed she learned a lot and I appreciated her observations and feedback as we debriefed over dinner. Each passing day since the election, I am ever more deeply committed [...]

Lessons from a Cockroach

– Posted in: Life Lessons

I have always hated cockroaches and so imagine my revulsion as I saw THE BIGGEST COCKROACH EVER as I left the gym just now. I thought to crush it, then had a moment to wonder what message its appearance might be bringing me….And as I Googled “Cockroach totem", half thinking there could never be anything [...]

Choosing courage to speak my truth

– Posted in: Living my calling

“Being vulnerable feels dangerous and I think it feels scary and I think it is terrifying but I don't think it's as dangerous, scary or terrifying as getting to the end of our lives and wondering, 'What if I would have shown up?'” ~ Brené Brown I had spent so much of my life hiding, trying to [...]